For first time parents, getting a baby boy or baby girl does not generally make a difference. The expecting parents are happy just at the prospect of the coming of a new baby into their lives.
The desire to select the sex of the baby may arise when it is time to plan on having a second child. For my case, financial constraint is one of the main factors. For others, it could be the mother’s age or there are health risks related to the pregnancy.
There are unlimited recommended ways to help you achieve your goal. Old wives’ tale also abounds and if you are adventurous enough, below are some of the ideas or suggestions.
Baby boy
To get a baby boy, do the following:
• Plan to have sex on ovulation day where the male sperm supposedly swims faster and will reach the egg first
• The female partner reaches orgasm first before the male partner as this creates an alkaline environment
• Have deep sex penetration (e.g. doggie-style from behind)
• Plan the make love on the odd days of the month
Baby girl
To get a baby girl, do the following:
• Plan to have sex a few days early before your ovulation day
• Have shallow sex penetration
• The male partner reaches orgasm first before the female partner
• Plan to make love on the even days of the month
Control your diet
There are also advices on the type of food to be eaten to tip the scales in your favor. To get a boy, it is recommended to consume lots of meat, fish, salty food, white flour and to avoid milk and dairy products, nuts, chocolates and even shellfish. To get a girl on the other hand, take plenty of milk and dairy products, unsalted food, rice, pasta, spinach, fresh fruits, tomatoes, mushrooms, chocolate and to avoid salty foods.
Chinese calendar or chart
Another popular method is by following an ancient Chinese lunar calendar or chart where conceiving in certain months will produce a baby boy and other months, a baby girl. It also takes into consideration the woman’s ‘Chinese age’ when using the baby gender chart based on the Chinese lunar calendar. Please take note that the stated accuracy of this method is about 60% only.
Scientific methods
You may also explore other more ‘scientific’ methods like the Preimplantation genetic diagnosis or PGD for short, which is an in-vitro fertilization technique. Another method is called the Ericsson (no relation to the hand phone brand name) which is a sperm-sorting technique with claims of 78 – 85% effective for choosing boys and 73-75% for choosing girls. A simpler method is the Shettles method which requires timing the intercourse on specific days of the woman’s cycle.
My own experience
Personally, I found the Chinese calendar method above was easy and straightforward enough to follow. I was aiming for a baby girl as my first child was a boy. For the first seven months of pregnancy, my spouse and I were kept guessing on the baby’s sex. According to our doctor, due to the position of the fetus it was difficult to determine and confirm whether it was a boy or a girl. It was only later after the fetus shifted position and we were able to confirm that it was going to be another boy. We were happy all the same as the most important thing is that the baby is born healthy.
Four years later with my biological clock ticking away, I decided that if my spouse and I wanted to try for a baby girl, we had to do it soon. A research on the web produced the Selnas method which claimed ~98% success rate for the selection of the preferred baby’s sex. Other creative methods like those mentioned above have much lower success rates. Hence, my spouse and I decided to go for the Selnas method. I did not conceived during the first year and we went for a second try. My baby girl was eventually born in 2006 and we did not regret our decision to try this method.
If you are faced with a similar predicament, allow yourself to explore and learn the various ways of achieving your goal. You can even combine a few methods to increase your chances of getting the desired result.
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I plan to have a girl next. Hope your method helps!
I suggest you continue to do some more research work. If the idea or method is acceptable to both you and your spouse, then go for it. Don’t forget to consider the cost as well.
hej jag har lästt nästan allt om alla metoder men jag är so räd att får sama resoltat jag vil ha den pojke efter 4 flikor jag är 31 och min man 39 jag ska ckansa sista gong men jag sks använde ckinesisk calender + dietetisk .
Hi Marta, if you want a good chance of success to get a baby boy, then it is advisable to go for a more reliable method. For example, the Selnas method or the Dr Jonas method which give a success rate of over 90%. Check out all the options that give a high percentage of success.
I recommend that you visit the various websites to learn more about the different methods and options. Read about the background, the success rate, the cost, the procedures, etc. Discuss with your spouse which one is acceptable to both of you before making a decision.
All the best,
Jacquelyn
I’m a new marriage. My partner have a son to his first marriage.
We’ve been togather for seven years I’m try to a have a child but
I really want a girl not a boy. I’ve never had a child before.
Hi Nancy, you can choose the sex of your first child to be a girl. Personally, I would look into the Selnas or Dr Jonas method. You can also consult with your doctor about which method would be suitable for you. Do some research beforehand on the various options available to you in order to make the best choice. All the best.