When your kids were born, you were the happiest parent, feeling very proud of each one of them. You feel blessed and enjoy seeing them grow up. However, there are days when you do not really like them and wished that they are not around. Your kids appear to be terribly naughty, greedy and spoiled that you cannot stand being around them. Is this kind of feeling perfectly normal?
According to child experts, it is normal to feel that way at certain times. A different way of looking at it is by asking the question,” Do you always like all the people you love, for example your spouse?” Besides your children, you may have similar feelings about your spouse and even your parents. I believe there have been times when you wish you were single and living alone again.
Well, I bet your kids probably aren’t crazy about the parents either at certain days. So it happens both ways.
It probably helps to tell your child, “I don’t like your behavior.” Doing this helps to separate your child from his actions. However, if you turn violent every time, then you need professional help. It you see that your resentment does not fade away quickly or is prolonged, then get professional help or advice.
According to the experts, having negative feelings encourages the development of conscience in your child. It teaches the child to mend his behavior after getting a negative feedback from the parents. Hence, don’t beat yourself up for having bad feelings towards your children. It can happen at certain times and to all parents.
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