EQ which stands for emotional intelligence is a skill that can be taught. It is known that children with skills in emotional intelligence are more successful, more happy and confident in school. They also grow up to be more responsible as adults.
Our body’s reaction to the biochemical produced in the brain results in emotions. So emotions are chemical reactions. An easy way to grasp this idea is by thinking how food like chocolates can trigger the brain to release endorphins and serotonins, the biochemical that the brain associates with feeling good. Therefore, your children can be taught to change the biochemistry of their emotions.
What is emotional intelligence or EQ?
A person with high EQ exhibits the following positive emotional qualities:
* Empathy
* Expressing and understanding feelings
* Controlling one’s temper
* Friendliness
* Kindness
* Respect
The above are only some of the emotions associated with a person with high EQ. As detailed in the book ‘How to Raise a Child with High EQ’ by Lawrence E. Shapiro, EQ skills can be taught through games and from activities. This will give the children the opportunities to learn and practice different ways to think, feel and act.
Example of an activity
An example of a fun activity described by the author for ‘trust-building’ is called ‘Leading the Blind’ which is recommended for children ages seven and above. The parent blindfolds the child and leads him around a room. As the parent leads the child going around furniture or obstacles, the child becomes more dependent on the parent’s physical guidance. Initially, the child may not like the feelings of being helpless and dependent but slowly he will begin to accept it. The role is then reverse where it is the child’s turn to lead the parent who is blindfolded. There should be discussions between the parent and child before and after the activity regarding the skills of trust and interdependence for the activity to be meaningful.
There are many ideas, games, activities, advice and exercises that the author described within the book to develop a particular emotion. Whether it is to improve on developing a child’s confidence or to be a conscientious and compassionate person. However, without any effort or time and commitment from the parents, the end-result will not materialize.
Therefore to achieve any of the desired goal or results, be prepared to put in lots of work and effort to carry out the recommended activities. Your end reward will show in your child’s higher EQ.