Parents wanting to make their children happy or wanting to avoid a temper tantrum from happening often succumb to the “gimmes” demanded by their children.
Parents often hold the thought that their children will be deprived if they do not give their kids whatever they want. In addition, these parents believe they owe their kids and must give in to their children’s demand.
It is alright to give the children what they need such as nutritional food, a loving home and family, clothing and education. However, parents have to be cautious not to over indulge in their children’s “wants” as these may lead to negative consequences.
What are the signs of a “spoiled” child?
Children who have been spoiled or overindulged are susceptible to emotional problems. The following are some of the signs to look out for:
• They seldom take responsibility for their actions.
• They are not well accepted as they are inclined to be self-centered.
• They have a problem relating to other people.
• They tend to base the value of human relationship on money and material things.
• They have feelings of insecurity and doubts about their own self-worth. Hence, they often seek approval and acceptance from other people.
• They normally do not take care of things or possessions as they are used to getting new things.
• They will often have problems as adults when they do not get what they want easily.
So, parents beware if your are giving your child too much. Remember that in life there will always be someone who has “more” and your children will encounter them many times. As wise parents, you should always remind your children of the blessings they have and to appreciate or be grateful for what they already have.
Your children will learn about self-control, humility, delayed gratification and generosity among other things.