Sex is a big issue between married couples. It is an important aspect in a marriage relationship and therefore has to be maintained. Women are particularly concern about it especially right after giving birth. Some of these concerns are brought up below.

#1: When is the right time to have sex?

Women who had a normal vaginal delivery can resume their sex life after the bleeding has stopped. Those who had a Caesarean section or a complicated delivery that requires an episiotomy should refer to their doctor for advice. The woman should be physically and psychologically ready before she resumes her sex life. The time length varies for different women and can be within a few weeks or even up to a year.

#2: Will sex be different after a baby?

There may be some loss of sensation as the vagina was stretched during the delivery. You can tone back the vagina by doing some exercises on the pelvic floor muscles. Your partner generally does not have an issue on this matter as he is more concern about resuming physical intimacy with you.

#3: Is contraception needed immediately?

Contraception is important as soon as you resume sexual intercourse. Women have been known to get pregnant within a month of delivery or while still breastfeeding their babies.

#4: Will my partner see or treat me differently?

This issue needs to be discussed by both partners to prevent any misunderstandings. The right answer will vary for each couple and there should be a mutual agreement at the end.

#5: After giving birth, will the woman’s libido be affected?

There is a possibility that the woman’s libido or sex drive is low. Having a new responsibility and taking time to recover from the birth experience will no doubt affect the woman’s libido. Hence, both partners should work together to maintain the physical intimacy or affection in various ways such as cuddling or massaging each other. The woman’s libido will eventually return but needs to be worked on with the help of the partner.

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Have you ever thought about the above question? Do you have the dilemma of how to impart sex education to your child? More often than not, parents tend to brush off questions about sex and hope that their child will eventually learn about it in school. There are other parents who prefer to take the indirect approach and talk about the birds and the bees as well as the stork version.

The good new is that there are parents who have decided to take more responsibility for their child’s sex education. As a wise parent, you will be responsible to teach your child about personal responsibilities and moral attitudes related to sex. It is all about teaching your child to have healthy attitudes about the whole subject besides teaching about the physiological facts only.

The education does not happen in one sitting but is an on-going process, more on a need-to-know basis. Below are some of the ideas that I personally think should be covered:

• To teach the differences between male and female

• To teach the actual names of the various body parts and not to substitute them with ridiculous names like “birdie” and “flower”

• To teach the difference between good and bad touching

• To teach the importance of how life begins

• To teach how a baby develops

• To teach how a baby is born

• To teach your child to respect his own body

Educating your child about sex will no doubt continue until the teenage years. By that time, he would have developed certain standards of sexual conduct and having a good respect for himself and the opposite sex.

What is your opinion on this subject? How would you want your child to learn about sex?

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Do you agree with the title above? Your answer may depend on what is your definition of a good marriage and what is good parenting. The definition of a good marriage also varies with different couples. I am going to mention some requirements below and see whether you have other opinions or you want to add to it.

Having a good marriage means:

• You and your partner are emotionally and physically connected

• Both of you are honest with each other

• Both of you respect each other’s opinions and the differences in view points

• Both of you can talk openly about everything

• Both of you share common goals

• Both of you make time for each other, just the two of you

The above are some ideas that come immediately to mind when I think about what makes a good marriage. Personally, I believe it is important to have a strong marriage in order to be good in parenting.

My personal belief is that parenting is the responsibility of both partners. Each partner contributes positively in different ways to a child’s upbringing. Learn more about becoming good parents in an earlier posting entitled, “How to Become a Good Parent“ and “How to Improve Your Parenting Skills?“. I will be the first to admit that parenting a child or children is very complicated and requires a lot of patience. Hence, I am thankful to have a loving partner and we can work together as a team to fulfill all of our parenting responsibilities.

Therefore, it is important to solve any existing relationship problems quickly and strengthen the marriage foundation. Problems in a marriage may arise due to various reasons like cheating, misunderstandings, dishonesty, due to neglect, debt problems, etc.

Recently, I discovered a proven method or system created by a marriage expert that has a high success rate of close to 90% in saving marriages. The normal rate is about 20% only using the common techniques recommended by other marriage experts in the same field. If you think that you may benefit from this marriage or relationship saving system, you can get a free report here, “Save Your Marriage“.

Below are some unique features about this system:

• It can be applied even if only one partner is making the effort to save the marriage or relationship

• It can be applied no matter at what stage is the crisis, for example even after the divorce proceeding has started

• It can be applied for different relationship problems the couple is facing. For example, problems related to money, sex, dishonesty or cheating and many more.

Some couples stay together instead of separating for the sake of the children. However, this situation does not last long. In addition, it also affects the children in one-way or another. For example, the parents are supposed to be the role model that the children will learn from about relationship, marriage, respect, parenting, etc.

Therefore, having a solid and happy marriage means being able to carry out your parenting role more effectively and providing a positive growing up environment for the children.

What is your opinion about this subject matter? Please feel free to leave your comments below.